I am a single 30-something woman trying to navigate the dating waters in Miami, FL (AKA where all illusions of romance go to die). I spent most of my twenties dating a dude. Ours was a crazy young love full of semi bad decisions, parties, goth clubs, booze, and sexual experimentation.
Fast forward through 7 years of happiness, wasting time and avoiding issues to about 3 years of not-so-much-happiness where we grew up and apart, and eventually over, for many reasons I won't get into. No regrets :)
In the time since the demise of my LTR, I had also decided to try and get my shit together. I went back to school after finding myself ridiculously unemployed, with no major marketable skill set. Meanwhile, the dreaded 30's were upon me. My social circles were (and still pretty much are) comprised of 30-somethings getting engaged, married, and having babies. Not exactly the deep dating pool I was expecting to jump into.
So what was a single girl to do? I was never the type to be approached by men, conventionally, anyway. I was always the funny fat chick, the best friend, one of the guys. After about a decade off the market, I didn't know the first thing about meeting dudes. Naturally, I ended up online dating.
That first year, I went out on several awkward first dates a week. I put myself out there and dated like a champ. Mostly, I was really just going through the motions. I dated douchebags. I dated boring guys. I dated hot Argentinians. I dated a hero cop that got shot several times and ended up on all the local news channels (it's ok, he totally recovered). I got my heart way broken within the first year by someone I had called a friend for about a decade (but that is a story for another day... then again, maybe not. Fuck that dude!). I've had lots of men try to get in my pants. I've made a few friends, had some hot lovers. In a nutshell, it has been a roller coaster of crazy.
Eventually, I slowed down on the online dating. This doesn't mean I took down the dating profiles, I just started focusing on myself more than men. In the last 3 years, I have lost about 80 lbs. I blossomed from a multiple time college dropout to a straight A-honor society member- fancy Emmy scholarship winning- film nerd. Mind you, I still don't quite have things figured out. Film is my passion, but not exactly an easy thing to break into, especially in Miami. I would still be considered a general fuck up in comparison to pretty much anyone else who has their shit together and doesn't live at home with their retired roommates (Cuban parents) or actually has a full time job... but I was never one to compare myself to everyone else. I am flying by the seat of my pants, and I love it.
Enough about me. This blogging thing will combine my random observations and musings, after all, I am a story teller... but mostly it will probably be screenshots from the various dating sites I use. Online dating has turned from a last resort no man's land to a crazy hookup phenomenon where men feel they can hide behind their smartphones and computers and get away with saying pretty much anything. I've suspected for quite some time that I attract crazy or bring it out in people. I've been posting screenshots on my FB for a while for the amusement of my friends. (Sorry guys, I will be recycling some... but don't worry, I have tons of new stuff too.) Sometimes I pick fights and argue with their nonsense (I suspect this may be when I am ovulating, feeling extra hostile, or just wanna be a bitch, LOL). Other times, the messages are enough to stand alone. I mostly try to cover their faces or identifiable information... unless they are extra ridiculous.
I've never blogged. I have no idea what I am doing. I tend to over think things, to the point that I never get things started, so I am just gonna let it rip. I'm sure I will figure it out as I go :) (Thank god for the "edit" feature!)
And now, for the first screenshot, from the guy that helped convince me to get this thing finally started:
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